The best approach can be summed up in two words: be real. Rigorous honesty is at the heart of the Twelve Step recovery program, so is sharing hope, strength, and experience. Be honest, friendly, and positive, and you can't go wrong. At the very least you'll be practicing your principles. As previously stated, landing a date isn't the end result of this project. Dating is about you learning more about yourself, developing your social skills, and getting out into the world.
A favorite technique that almost always works to ease discomfort and get you going on your dating plan is to become the observer in your mindthe fly on the wall. It's the opposite of checking out. You're present but with room to have the experience without getting critical or collapsing into it. It's the observer's job to pay attention to youto notice how you are feelingand not to take notes on the other person. Be sure the observer is on your side, offering plenty of positive encouragement in a friendly voice.
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